The winner never stands alone!

The cacophonies of life gets to you when you start thinking “I’m alone, when I laugh the world laughs with me, when I cry, I cry alone”.

If you have got to a point where you have started thinking this, then the blue bug has bit you and you are in need of big hug treatment from your best friend and dear ones. At the worst stage of the bite, you throw symptoms of reaction like this: You would start the day thinking of all the bad experiences, the sad experiences and the traumatic experiences that happened in the past; and the bad people, the sad people and the wrong people who caused the trauma to you. You start paying homage to all those tears you shed, the nights you lay awake thinking bidding your farewells, the days you roamed about like a zombie who is half alive with responses like “Hmm”, “Ok”, “ Ahaa” “oho”, “Grrr” and the person receiving the responses think “What in heaven’s name has gotten into her?”

You burst out like a dam at the slightest mention of “oh, sweetheart, What’s wrong” and then you relate bit by bit of that sad bad experience and then curse the sad bad person and then question the existence of Mr. God. After venting all your troubles for hours, for weeks, for months and at worst cases years; one fine morning you wake up with a smile on your face and magically turn into a content person. The one who listened to you becomes your best friend. So in all the tears and venting you get to walk away with one of the greatest trophies of all, “A best friend, a confidant and someone you know for sure is there for you”. If you are this person you are damn lucky.

In many parts of the world millions of people don’t walk away with such a trophy, they walk away with another appointment with a psychologist or counselor with a dwindling bank account coz you pay for a shoulder to cry on, showing a void of emotional support, love and care which is the best therapy one can get which can be bought with money but it won’t serve the magic it brings with love & the genuine thing from a friend or family. A paid counselor can only do that much, the person is only there superficially like a surrogate who carries your troubles for a given time period just for the financial rewards & professional courtesy. They provide you with a cushioned gestation period of a mother’s womb for a price but cannot provide for you the essentials of emotional love, support and the material things that shape your psyche like the gifts showered upon by a partner, the treats given by friends and the occasional surprises by loved ones. These are the basic needs of life which you take for granted until you don’t have it anymore or when you never had it and you chance upon it.

We think life is about winning but we forget that winning is just a game we play to pass our time, the real happiness lies in the game itself and not the outcome. The minute we stop taking the game seriously, we start living. The day you realize that it is worth every second to stop and spend time with your friends & family, you truly have come out as a winner all the way.

Because at the end of the day the real winner never stands alone!